Since Jerilyn put up the facebook page, many people have commented that wearing pants to church is no big deal. Women do it all the time. Its not even a thing. We’re making a big deal out of nothing. And to you who think that, I challenge you to put your words to the test. Wear pants to church on December 15 and see what happens.
I started wearing pants to church every Sunday in March of this year. The first time, I was terrified, but it was Stake Conference and an unusual kind of Sunday. The next Sunday I felt a little braver, but one of the other primary leaders was visibly startled. No one said anything. It didn’t seem to be a big deal, though I did notice that several individuals who used to say hi to me in the halls at church no longer did. I tried to shrug it off.
I thought my pants were doing just fine at church until I was asked to meet with the bishop. He told me that someone in my ward called the stake president to report my pants. The stake president called the bishop and asked him to check it out. My bishop is a good man, we talked, and he was supportive. He didn’t think that pants at church were a big deal, but the stake president wanted him to speak with me.
I’ve lived in my current ward for almost six years. I’ve served as a Cub Scout leader, Relief Society pianist, Young Women’s secretary, Primary teacher, visiting teacher, and Early Morning Seminary teacher. I’ve taught Gospel Doctrine and Relief Society as a last-minute substitute on a number of occasions. I feel that my pants should not matter, that I’ve earned the benefit of the doubt, but some in my ward disagree.
You may feel that you have never experienced anything other than warmth and love from your ward. That’s great. You must fit in really well. Please take the time to consider what it feels like to not be fully accepted in your church community. Consider what it must be like to be that woman in church who no one engages. Consider wearing pants to church to show solidarity with those who don’t fit in, who do not feel acceptance, who feel marginalized, but want to worship God at church each Sunday. Wearing pants to church is a show of love for these people. I’m pretty sure its what Jesus would do.
For I was an hungered, and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me in: naked, and ye clothed me: I was sick, and ye visited me: I was in prison, and ye came unto me. Then shall the righteous answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungered, and fed thee? or thirsty, and gave thee drink? When saw we thee a stranger, and took thee in? or naked, and clothed thee? Or when saw we thee sick, or in prison, and came unto thee? And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren [and sisters], ye have done it unto me. (Matt 25:35-40)