How to Talk to People about Wear Pants to Church Day

from Clara

I was recently asked how I approach people when recruiting them for Wear Pants to Church Day. I participated last year and nothing dramatic happened, so it only seemed right to invite others along. While talking about it with some wonderful Mormon Feminists in my ward, we sadly concluded that the term “feminism” should be avoided if we wanted anyone to be involved. This has made conversations easier.

I always approach people on one-to-one basis. My first step is to ask if they’ve heard of Wear Pants to Church Day. If it’s the first time they’ve heard about it, I explain what is all about. Their answer is most likely to determine whether I keep the conversation going or not.

So far, responses have been positive. Most people would say it does not matter what you wear to church, but what you do. That leads me to casually drop in the conversation that Wear Pants to Church Day is now an annual thing and we are looking for supporters.

Some freak a little bit and look for assurance that this event has nothing to do with women wanting the priesthood or members telling leaders how the LDS Church should be run. I mostly focus on acceptance. Wear Pants to Church Sunday is our statement to the world and to the Church that, as Elder Uchtdorf said, “You are welcome”. This is our statement that no matter what you are, where you are from, what you do, and especially, what you wear, we love you. We are your ally, we are your friend, and we will stand by anyone’s side when they are in need. Wear Pants to Church Day is about love.

I hope that we welcome and love all of God’s children, including those who might dress, look, speak, or just do things differently. It is not good to make others feel as though they are deficient. Let us lift those around us. Let us extend a welcoming hand. Let us bestow upon our brothers and sisters in the Church a special measure of humanity, compassion, and charity so that they feel, at long last, they have finally found home. (Elder Uchtdorf, April 2010)